So often we ask God to make us humble people. It’s like we expect to be overtaken by Him & stripped of all pride in a moment. & sure, that could happen. But, in most cases, humility comes down to making a choice.
It’s been said, “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” There’s a lot of truth in that statement.
These are just Brettley-thoughts so there’s plenty of room for disagreeing- I’m definitely still in process.
If true humility is thinking of yourself less, then it seems false (counterfeit) humility is believing you consider others before yourself while never truly examining your heart & thoughts to see if that’s true of you. I’m sure there are other forms of false humility not included in that summary, as well.
Humility is a heart matter, but I believe it begins in the thought life. & it requires being honest with yourself.
How often in your day do you think of yourself?
How often do you find yourself thinking of others?
How many of your thoughts about others are really just comparisons of their life to yours (which leads to entitlement rather than thankfulness)?
Are you able to celebrate others?
If so, do you choose to?
I don’t believe humility is having no needs of your own. Having no needs of your own is called “dysfunction.” We all have needs to manage in healthy ways. I also do not believe humility is denying or suppressing your needs.
I believe humility is knowing your needs & then being able to choose to step outside of your world & see the needs of others. Humility is not a posture of weakness, but of power. Powerful people can intentionally choose to see beyond their world. Powerless people can only operate in counterfeit forms of humility. After all, how is it possible to think of others when your thoughts are consumed with justifying why you feel victimized by them?
Practically speaking, sometimes humility is simply recognizing the other person in the room with you; making the powerful choice to turn your thoughts toward their heart, even if they are unaware. True humility isn’t seeking for their recognition & validation anyway, because powerful people know their identities- fully loved, fully accepted, fully embraced by the Father.
When you choose humility, your thoughts shift.
"Holy Spirit, how is that person’s heart? What are that person’s needs? Give me eyes to see that person the way You do."
Humility is a choice. Jesus chose humility. Philippians 2:8, “And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death in a cross.”
The Father did not force him. The most powerful person on the planet humbled himself. He chose it.
I believe the Father’s heart is that we stop crying out for Him to make us humble and just start choosing it like Jesus did.
You are powerful! And the Father has empowered you to choose whether or not to walk in love, honor, and humility in relationships. Steward your thoughts powerfully!
"Favor may get you in door, but humility keeps you in the room." -Eric Johnson